Sex Therapy for the Life You're Actually Living
Something's been off for a while. Maybe you've tried to bring it up and it went nowhere. Maybe you've never said it out loud to anyone at all. Either way, this is a good place to start.
Sex therapy isn't just for crisis.
It's for people who know something isn't working and are tired of waiting for it to sort itself out.
You and your partner might want different things, and every conversation about it ends the same way. Sex might have gotten painful, or distant, or just stopped feeling like something either of you reaches for. There might be something about your desire, your identity, or your history that you've been holding privately for a long time, not because you don't want to talk about it, but because you've never quite known who to talk to.
You don't need to show up with answers. You need someone who knows how to ask the right questions.
I work with individuals and couples dealing with desire discrepancy, vaginismus and painful sex, sexual trauma, the aftermath of infidelity, identity questions, and the particular dynamics that come with LGBTQ+, kink, polyamorous, and mixed-orientation relationships. If your OB/GYN has told you it's psychological and handed you a referral, you're in the right place.
Nothing here is off limits and nothing requires an explanation before we begin.
What people come in for, in more depth.
Sex therapy covers a wide range of concerns. These are some of the areas I work in most consistently, each with its own clinical considerations and its own shape in the room.
Low desire, sexual pain, menopause, and the concerns your OB/GYN sent you here for.
Many of the women I work with arrive after a medical provider has ruled out physical causes and suggested therapy. They've been told everything looks fine. What they haven't had is a clinician who knows how to work with what's actually happening.
This includes low or absent desire, vaginismus and painful sex, arousal difficulties, sexual changes during perimenopause and menopause, and intimacy concerns following childbirth, surgery, or illness. These are distinct clinical presentations, and they respond to specific approaches.
I work with women individually and with couples where one or both partners are navigating these concerns.
Learn More About Women's Sexual HealthA practice that's actually affirming, not just inclusive-sounding.
LGBTQ+ identities, kink-engaged relationships, ethical non-monogamy, and polyamory are not edge cases you need to explain or defend here. You won't spend your session time making the case for who you are or how you love. We can start from where you actually are.
This includes therapy for individuals navigating identity, coming out, and the intersection of sexuality and relationships, as well as couples and polycules dealing with communication, desire, jealousy, and the specific dynamics that come with non-traditional structures. Mixed-orientation relationships and orientation disclosure are areas I work in regularly.
Kink-affirming means I understand the difference between consensual kink and harm. You won't be pathologized for what you're into.
Learn More About Affirming TherapyWhen the distance between you has become the thing you live around.
Most couples who come in for sex therapy aren't only dealing with sex. They're dealing with the way that distance has accumulated, the conversations that never quite happen, the resentment that has made its way into the bedroom and won't leave.
I work with couples navigating desire discrepancy, intimacy avoidance, communication breakdown, the aftermath of a sexual dry spell that's gone on longer than either of you want to admit, and the ways that mismatched needs quietly reshape a relationship over time. I use Gottman Method as a foundation for couples work, which means the focus is on what's actually happening between you, not just what you each feel individually.
Couples work is available to partners in all relationship structures, including ENM, polyamorous, and mixed-orientation partnerships.
Learn More About Couples TherapyWhether you're trying to recover, decide, or understand what happened.
Infidelity looks different depending on who's sitting across from me. Sometimes it's a couple in the immediate aftermath of disclosure, trying to figure out whether there's anything left to work with. Sometimes it's one partner alone, processing the betrayal or trying to understand their own behavior. Sometimes it's both, months or years later, still carrying something that never got properly addressed.
I work with betrayed partners, with people who had affairs, and with couples doing the difficult work of deciding whether to stay or separate. That decision doesn't need to be made before you come in. Discernment is part of what therapy is for.
Recovery, when that's the direction, means more than rebuilding trust. It means understanding what the infidelity was actually about, for both people, and addressing that honestly.
Get StartedHonest, Private, and Focused on What's Actually Going On
Sessions are talk-based and fully confidential. You can say the thing you haven't been able to say anywhere else without worrying about what it does to the room.
I'm a Certified Sex Therapist credentialed through IAPST and IBOSP, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and a graduate of the University of Michigan's Sexual Health Certificate Program. I'm currently pursuing a PhD in Clinical Sexology through Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. I previously held AASECT certification and left the organization on principle. You can read about that decision here.
Sex therapy is not a sideline in my practice. It is the practice.
What that looks like in a session: we start with what's actually happening, not just the version of it that's easiest to say. We work on your ability to talk about hard things with the people you're close to, not just in session but at home. And we aim for real change, not just better ways to manage the same problem.
Starting with What's Actually True
Not the presenting complaint, but what's underneath it. Shame, avoidance, grief, disconnection. We work with what's real.
Finding Words for Hard Things
Being able to ask for what you need, set limits without guilt, and stay in honest contact with the people you're close to. That's what we're building toward.
Change That Actually Holds
Not coping strategies to get through the week. Real shifts in how you relate to yourself and the people you're intimate with.
All sessions are held via a secure, HIPAA-compliant platform. You attend from wherever you're most comfortable, in Connecticut, New York, or Michigan. For this kind of work, being in your own space matters more than most people expect before they try it.
This is all I do. And I do it without the disclaimers.
A lot of therapists list sex therapy as one of many specialties. It isn't an add-on here. I've built my training, my certifications, and my entire practice around this work.
Specialized Training, Not a General Practice
Sex therapy is a distinct clinical specialty, not something you add to a generalist practice and call it done. It's the center of my work. I hold advanced training in human sexuality, women's sexual health, and relationship dynamics, and I stay current with the research because the field keeps moving.
Actually Affirming
LGBTQ+ identities, kink, ENM, polyamory, mixed-orientation relationships: these aren't edge cases you need to explain to me. You won't spend your session defending your relationship structure. We can skip straight to the actual work.
Telehealth Across Connecticut, New York, and Michigan
All sessions are conducted via a secure, HIPAA-compliant platform. You attend from wherever you're most comfortable. For this particular kind of work, being in your own space matters more than most people expect before they try it.
More Than One Tool in the Room
Talk therapy is the foundation. When deeper trauma or emotional blocks are part of the picture, I bring in Brainspotting, a body-based approach with solid research behind it, particularly for trauma and the places where people get stuck. It's not the right fit for everyone, but when it is, it moves things that conversation alone often can't.
If it's about sex, desire, or how you connect with the people you're close to, it belongs here.
- Desire discrepancy
- Vaginismus and painful sex
- Sexual trauma
- Low libido and arousal difficulties
- Infidelity recovery
- Intimacy avoidance
- Identity and orientation questions
- Kink, ENM, and non-traditional structures
- Communication breakdown
- Mixed-orientation couples
Things People Usually Ask Before Reaching Out
This is where you start.
You've probably been sitting with this longer than you'd like. Reach out and we'll find a time to talk. A free 15-minute consultation is available if you want to get a sense of fit before committing to a full session.