Online Sex Therapy for New Yorkers
Reclaiming Intimacy When Everything Else Comes First
There's a kind of exhaustion that doesn't make it onto a performance review. It lives in the quiet, in the space between you and your partner at the end of a long day, in the distance that builds when you're both technically present but emotionally somewhere completely else.
Maybe you've noticed it. Maybe you've been noticing it for a while.
You're not failing. But something has gone quiet in your relationship, or inside yourself, and you're not sure how to reach it anymore.
When the Off Switch Goes Missing
Here's something I see again and again in my work: the drive and discipline that help you succeed at work don't automatically stand down when you close your laptop.
Your nervous system doesn't know it's 8 PM. Chronic stress keeps the body in a state of low-grade activation: elevated cortisol, sustained alertness, a readiness for the next thing. And that state is genuinely incompatible with the vulnerability and presence that intimacy requires. Desire needs safety. It needs off. And for a lot of people living at a certain pace, off is the hardest gear to find.
This isn't a character flaw. It's physiology. And it's workable.
What This Can Look Like
You might recognize yourself in one of these:
Sex has started to feel like a test. When your professional life doesn't tolerate failure, the bedroom can quietly become another high-stakes arena. Anticipatory dread builds, and whether it shows up as performance anxiety, difficulty with arousal, or trouble reaching orgasm, the cycle tends to feed itself.
You're running the household beautifully and feeling completely alone. Many couples become extraordinarily efficient co-managers of their lives. Schedules, finances, logistics, all handled. But the erotic charge, the playfulness, the sense of being chosen by each other? That's what erodes. You're functioning well as a unit and starving for something you can't quite name.
Your mind won't stop. The mental chatter that keeps you prepared and ahead of problems doesn't turn off on command. Real presence, the kind that makes sex actually satisfying, keeps getting interrupted by the next thing on the list.
You want connection and your partner seems to want distance (or the reverse). When one person is depleted and the other is reaching for closeness, that gap can start to feel like rejection rather than exhaustion. It's one of the most painful places a couple can find themselves, and one of the most common.
Why Telehealth Actually Works Here
The practical case is simple: you don't have room in your schedule for a commute, and a waiting room in Midtown does nothing for your privacy.
But there's a clinical reason too. Being in your own space, your office, your bedroom, wherever you feel settled, keeps your nervous system in a baseline state that actually makes the work more effective. The threshold to get to therapy is lower when therapy comes to you. And a lower threshold means more people actually follow through.
Sessions are HIPAA-compliant and conducted via secure video. No commute, no waiting room, just you, wherever you're most comfortable, doing the actual work.
How I Work
I'm drawn to approaches that are efficient, direct, and don't require you to talk about your feelings indefinitely without anything shifting.
Brainspotting works with the subcortical brain, the part that holds stuck stress and emotional residue that doesn't respond to insight or conversation alone. If you've done plenty of talking and still feel like something isn't moving, Brainspotting often reaches what words can't. I offer both ongoing sessions and intensives for people who want to do deeper work in a concentrated period.
The Gottman Method gives couples a research-grounded framework for understanding where the relationship is strong and where it's under strain. For people who like having a map, it's useful, not because it turns therapy into a spreadsheet, but because it takes the guesswork out of where to start.
A Note on My Training
I'm a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), licensed in New York, Connecticut, and Michigan, and a Certified Sex Therapist credentialed through IBOSP and IAPST. I hold a Sexual Health Certificate in Sex Therapy and Sexuality Education from the University of Michigan, and I'm currently a PhD student in sexology at MSTI.
I work with sex and intimacy specifically, directly, and without flinching. That specificity matters, because general therapy often stays too surface-level for what you're actually dealing with.
Who I Work With
I work with individuals and couples navigating sexual concerns, intimacy issues, desire mismatches, and relational disconnection. I have a particular focus on women's sexual health, including painful sex, low desire, arousal concerns, and the transitions that come with pregnancy, postpartum, perimenopause, and beyond. I also specialize in affirming care for LGBTQ+ clients, people in ENM or kink-engaged relationships, and those in major life transitions. Affirming care here isn't a marketing phrase, it's just how I practice.
Ready to Start?
I’m happy to connect beforehand if you have questions. Just reach out through the encrypted contact form and I'll usually get back to you within 24 to 48 hours. The first session is a paid clinical intake, and I can usually get you in within a week.
