Why I am no longer associated with AASECT
Jan 2, 2024
Identity, politics and ethics
I have a diverse cultural and religious background. Raised Catholic, as an adult I converted to Judaism, which has become an integral part of my identity. I've been Jewish more years than not. It's who I am. I've experienced Jewish life in various religious contexts, from conservative to reform, and now find myself leaning more towards a secular and cultural appreciation of Judaism. This journey also led me to discover Ashkenazi Jewish heritage in my DNA, a revelation that resonated deeply with me. No wonder I found my way to Jewish life — it's in my bones! (Thanks, 23&Me!)
My connection to Judaism and my diverse experiences have shaped my understanding of the complexities surrounding identity and belief systems. While I consider myself a spiritual individual, I've witnessed firsthand how religious trauma can affect people, which is why religion is not a focus in my therapy sessions — as in, I'm not ever going to say "let's pray on that." My approach is pragmatic and grounded in evidence-based therapeutic techniques rather than spiritual advisement.
The horrific attacks in Israel on October 7th, 2023 brought a new dimension to my understanding of identity politics and social dynamics, and had a profound impact on many communities I am a part of and work with professionally. These events stirred complex emotions and difficult conversations — especially among and between Jewish and Queer communities.
In the wake of October 7th, I observed a range of responses, some of which were deeply concerning. As someone who navigates both Jewish and Queer spaces, I felt a real disorientation amidst these conversations. I looked to AASECT — my professional organization — to echo support for the Israeli women who were attacked. Instead, I encountered a pivotal and disappointing silence.
The failure of AASECT's leadership to appropriately address antisemitic comments and outright Holocaust denial within its ranks, coupled with its refusal to unequivocally condemn the atrocities perpetrated by HAMAS on October 7th, 2023, deeply troubled me. To be clear: condemning the rapes and murders by HAMAS is not "taking political sides" — especially for an organization that advocates for women and survivors of sexual violence.
#MeTooUnlessYouAreJew #BelieveAllWomen
Even more troubling is the stark discrepancy between the position statement AASECT made on Black Lives Matter and the excuses offered by the current board for taking no stand whatsoever on October 7th. Jewish lives don't matter? These circumstances, along with unaddressed antisemitic remarks by some members, compelled me to reassess my professional affiliations.
Therefore, with a commitment to respect, inclusiveness, and ethical integrity, I have made a change. As of January 1st, 2024, I am associated with The International Association of Psychosexual Therapists™ (IAPST) as a Certified Psychosexual Therapist™, and I am also certified by the International Board of Sexuality Professionals (IBOSP) as a Certified Sex Therapist. This shift marks an important step in aligning myself with organizations that share and actively uphold the values and ethical standards I hold.
I want to extend a message of solidarity — especially to Jewish Queers and all victims of sexual trauma, who often fear not being believed when coming forward, and to others traumatized by these events. My heart also goes out to innocent Palestinians caught in the middle of this war; they too have been victimized by HAMAS. My practice is a safe space for anyone seeking support, understanding, or simply a place to process their feelings and thoughts. Whatever you're carrying — whether connected to recent events or to other aspects of your identity and experience — I am here.
In closing, I am reminded of the importance of empathy, respect, and the courage to act on your values even when it costs something. I remain committed to providing a supportive and non-judgmental space for every client who walks through my door.
